Inspirational Quote: Let Go the Past & You Can Start New
”Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?” Mary Manin Morrissey This might be a little dark today… but I have a friend who is going through life changes, maybe it’s you too. We all do it. We want to move on, we want change. But we are holding on tight to what we know, what we have today, what we had yesterday. Unknown is often scarier than unpleasant things that we have gotten accustomed. Even when we take first big step towards happier future, better life, we can still be sad and feel hurt, and the weight of it keeps us from being fully happy and moving forward. We feel conflicted – we want to be happy, we want to move on, and everything in theory is going towards a better life, but we just can’t let go. We try to find reasons for the bad things, we try to think what we could have done differently to prevent it from happening, we fear we will make the same mistakes or the same things will happen again. The fear of letting go keeps us from being happy and moving forward. We often think that the sad changes in our life are the worst, but it’s not true. Life changes to a better life can be as stressful and scary. In fact I almost think it’s sometimes even more difficult; we doubt that the better life exists because we haven’t truly lived it yet! There is better, and there is happiness. You can achieve it, and you deserve it. Don’t let anyone say anything different, including yourself. Let go. Don’t try to find out the why’s and what’s of life. It’s past. Focus in the future. Focus in your happiness, one little thing at the time. Close your eyes and see your life how it is going to be soon, what kind of clothes you are wearing, how your hair looks, what your surrounding looks like. Imagine small things around you – and then make those small things happen, buy the clothes, get your nails done, or get the rug in your home that makes you feel you have moved on. Start building that new life one piece at the time, and suddenly you will look around and notice that your life is just like you imagined. When we moved from Colorado to New York, it was a big change! It was a happy and an exciting change, but there was a lot of unknown, a lot of stress, and I was sad too to leave Durango behind us, and all of our friends there. I made some visible changes, like I cut my long hair to short, we sold most of our furniture, and bought new ones when we got here. I started building our life towards what I wanted it to become in New York. All of those little steps ultimately lead to a very big change and supported the big change in my life.
Katja, you just summed it up beautifully. It is all about choice.
Enjoy Life Oils
Yakini – that’s exactly how people often think – we have this set mind for something and nothing really that happens outside and what the reality is doesn’t change it. We just have to choose to be happy, choose to see things in a good light.
That’s exactly what I call “skimbaco lifestyle” – choosing every day that this IS the good stuff; finding something for your every day life that makes you happy every single day. Enjoying the surroundings where you are! I’ve lived in 3 countries and some 7 states or so and people always ask me, “what’s your favorite place” – I say all of them! While of course I have “favorites”, I have enjoyed all of them, because I have made my life enjoyable and I have always lived for “staycations” and for exploring the new neighborhood I’m in.
Ali – thank you for the book recommendation, I have to remember to get it!! It’s so true – and sometimes sad too, because WE let the fear set in, we do it for ourselves. But when we decide life is good – we tend to see the good things better ;)
Yakini’s points are really interesting and illustrate how fear can take over if we let it. An interesting book to read on this subject is “Feel the Fear and do it anyway” by Susan Jeffers
You’re so right on. Change is scary. It really is. Fear of the unknown can be so debilitating.
I remember when I moved from Maryland to NYC… I just knew I was going to hate it. I had to be here for graduate school, but beyond that I refused to accept the city as my own. So I stayed inside, didn’t explore what the city had to offer, had already decided that New Yorkers (as a whole) were mean, cold, rude people…. it took me several years of grad school and rigidly sticking to these beliefs before I started venturing out and actually meeting people and doing things.
And shortly afterward I discovered that NYC actually had many great things to offer me (beyond school)…. that the people were wonderful… and before I knew it I’d fallen in love with the city. (Of course, I met my husband here too, which helped. :-)
But I so agree with you – sometimes that “unknown” is much scarier than the actual reality. But you’ve got to open yourself up to the unknown and experience it to find out!
I don’t think this post was dark at all – quite inspirational, actually! :-)
Great advice! I got laid off at the end of last year and while I could have wallowed in it, I saw it as a new opportunity. It’s led to the creation of Momcomm and some amazing freelance opps. You just never know!
This is a great reminder that more often than not it is us that are getting in our own way. I think it is very important to nurture and care for our mindsets as they are the engine that will drive us to our chosen destination.