I miscarried the baby on Sunday, and I don’t care what you say, but I’m making the best out of it.
What?
No, I haven’t lost my mind, keep on reading, I will tell you how you can put your life in perspective too.
MY MOM TOLD ME TO LOOK AT THE BRIGHT SIDE
When I was growing up and broke my leg (more than once), my parents would say “at least you didn’t break both of them” trying to teach me to look at the bright side.
Being a 13-year-old sports fanatic, and having a broken leg sucked, and my parent’s comment just made me mad. But after the teenage years, I couldn’t help but notice, I am my parent’s daughter and I have the ability to always find the other side of the coin, and at least a little bit of good in every bad.
I didn’t learn this by just seeing a lot of good. I saw a lot of bad. I suffered from panic disorder, my ex-boyfriend was abusive, I went through anorexia; and seeing my Grandmother fade away with Alzheimer’s affected me.
SHIT HAPPENS, BUT WHY WOULD YOU STAND IN IT?
“When one door closes, another one opens” sounds such a cliché, but not many people live by it.
For many people change is always scary, even when it is for the better. The old is familiar; we know the pros and cons, and we’ve learned to live with them.
What if the new isn’t any better?
Well, if you live your life like that, you will never find out what better things there might be out for you.
Shit happens in life, but instead of standing in it, why don’t you get up, wash it off and go smell the flowers (or whatever).
Get up. Re-think. Re-evaluate. Make a new plan, set a new goal and do things differently than before.
It doesn’t matter if you have made a mistake. It’s OK.
You don’t have to live the rest of your life paying for it (well, unless it was a crime and you got sentenced to prison). You can make it better. Believe me, later in life you will not regret the mistake you did, you will regret you didn’t do anything to fix it.
You say there are things that can’t be fixed. Sure, when the milk has been spilled, you can’t get it back to the cup anymore – but you still clean it, not leave it on the table, right? There are things that you can loose or break, but if you look around you and see past the bad, there will be something good. Sometimes it just might take a while to realize and find it.
When you look at successful business people or high dollar Hollywood actors, do you think their lives has been success after success? Think again. The key to success is not ever failing, it’s the ability to bounce back after the failure.
I’m not afraid of failure. Actually I am sort of proud of the mistakes and failures in my life. They have taught me so much, and now I can live the life I want to live.
This mentality lets me try new things out. I have learned when I fail, it usually is an opportunity to try something else. This has given me the guts to do “big things” like move to new countries, leave a corporate job behind for personal happiness, start my own business; to “small things” like try snowboarding or order a random thing from the menu written in a foreign language.
losing A BABY MAKES ME THANKFUL OF WHAT I HAVE
Yes, miscarrying the baby on Sunday just made me thankful.
I saw it coming, and in a way, I am just relieved it’s all over now, and our hopes are not up for no reason. Also, since I got pregnant with IUD (yes, the 99.8% effective IUD; I’m in the 0.2%, I’m so special), I would have been scared of the possible harm for the baby from removing the IUD.
Of course we are sad, we were all very excited about the baby, but instead of making this post about how devastated I am, this post is about how this is all good.
I can’t help but take things in life as Gifts and instead of focusing now on the sadness of losing a baby, I’m focusing on things that make me happy and I can be thankful for. Like my three beautiful children, my husband, my family, my in-laws, friends in real life, and the friends in my virtual life. The healthiness of my family and me, happiness, and love we share. And many many other things. I have so much to be thankful of!
THINGS ARE NOT ALWAYS AS THEY SEEM
This is totally out of my little blog box here, but I would like to tell you a story. A friend of mine sent it to me years ago, and it just kind of stayed with me. Hopefully it will give you the inspiration to see things in life from a new perspective.
Two angels were looking for a place to stay overnight and they walked up on a Rich Man’s mansion and asked for a place to stay. The Rich Man said the angels could stay in the barn with the animals.
When the angels entered the barn, the Old Wise Angel noticed the siding of the wall was peeling off and he decided to fix the wall for the Rich Man. He worked all night and by morning the walls of the barn looked brand new.
The following night, the two angels were looking for a place to stay and walked up on a Poor Man’s house. The Poor Man said his wife was sick, but they would sleep in the barn and give their home for the visitors for the night.
That night, the Old Wise Angel took the Poor Man’s only cow to heaven.
In the morning the Young Novice Angel was so mad at the Old Wise Angel and couldn’t stay quiet anymore.
“I am so mad at you. The Rich Man didn’t even let us inside his house, but you repaired his barn, and the Poor Man took his family to sleep in the barn while we slept inside their warm house and you thank him by killing his only cow?”
The Old Wise Angel answered:
“Things are not always as they seem. The Rich Man’s barn’s inner walls were solid gold, and I hid the gold with the siding. God wanted to take Poor Man’s wife to heaven, but I sent Him his cow instead.”
