I’m re-posting an article I wrote a while ago for a forum, I thought you might enjoy it!
No, this is not a get rich quick blog post. If you are looking for something like that, you will not find it here.
However, I would like to share a conversation I had with someone very dear to me a while ago. She is single, highly educated professional woman, and she has been obsessed with Porsches ever since she was a kid. I told her one day that she should buy the Porsche she has always been dreaming of. She said “are you crazy, I can’t afford it.”
“Anything in life is possible, if you have the guts to pursue it. The things money can buy are the easiest ones to achieve – all you really need is more money” I told her “it’s easier for you to buy the Porsche than finding a husband-candidate!”
And I explained my theory how.
She could move to a smaller apartment, and give up her car, and use a bus as long as it takes. She lives in a city with great public transportation. She could stop eating out. Forget about vacations, going to movies and the latest trendy clothes. Get rid of the cable TV. Take a second job for evenings and weekends; something fun like as a coffee shop barista – great public place for meeting those husband candidates too. She’d be busy working and saving money – she wouldn’t even have time to spend money. It’s all about prioritizing.
Of course, there are more important things and goals in life than buying a Porche, but the ways to achieve your goal reminds the same.
Give it a try – part of this theory might just work on other things in life too, not just on buying things.
Personally for me my family, happiness and my relationship with my husband are the most important, and it has taken a lot of giving up on things, passion and staying focused to make my marriage and life the best I can. Things don’t come easy, not even in Cinderella stories.
THINK WHAT YOU CAN GIVE UP
Think what you are willing to give up in order to reach your goal. Take drastic measures if needed. Think what you really need, and what is just a luxury to you.
ACCEPT THAT YOU CAN’T HAVE IT ALL BUT YOU CAN HAVE WHAT YOU WANT
Only a few people can say they have all what they want, whether it’s personal happiness, wealth, relationship, health, dream house or career. But often you can have what is the most important thing for you if you focus your thoughts and actions to achieve it. Can’t help you find love nor get your health back, but when it comes to money, this is easy to achieve by prioritizing on the things that really have a meaning to you.
BE PASSIONATE
If you are truly passionate about it – you can achieve it. The passion will keep you focused on your goal, and make it easier to achieve it.
DON’T THINK WHAT YOU ARE MISSING OUT – STAY FOCUSED
Put a picture of your goal on your fridge door, or think of another way to have a daily reminder why you are giving up on things while you are working towards your goal. Drop the fashion magazine subscriptions temping you to buy new shoes, go to grocery store with a full tummy. You get the picture.
CHANGES ARE YOU’LL GET UNEXPECTED BONUSES
Also, find a way to enjoy the things you had to change in your life. Giving up TV might help you find out how much fun it is to go and kick ball with your son. Getting a second job might let you to get to know great people. Driving your car less might not just help you save money but help you loose weight. Things that you think now would be unpleasant, might actually become a blessing in your life. You never know what change brings – until you have made the change.
