Ask yourself: How did I get here?
How often have you looked at your life and thought “how did I get here”, and not in a good way? Wondering what happened with the dreams you had and how come you ended up somewhere totally different? More importantly, how often you look at your life in an amazement “how did I get here, this is more than I ever dreamed of”? I was recently on a trip in Mexico
with a few fellow bloggers, and we were sitting on a boat and watching the incredible blue water of Sea of Cortés (pictured) and a few of them had the “how did we get here” talk feeling incredibly thankful for the rare opportunity to travel and be on this boat and enjoying the sea. I was incredibly thankful of being there too, and loved every minute of it, but it made me think the opposite: how did I end up living a life without any MORE time by the sea and on boats? I grew up spending every single summer on a boat. Water is my element like nothing else. To me the sea has always represented the infinite possibilities of adventure and life experiences – you could sail your boat to a new harbor and experience something new while being on your safe homey boat. I know what happened, a married a pilot, whose element is air, and who does not feel the same way about boats at all.
On that moment I felt like I was living the life I was supposed to be living, on that boat in Mexico and realizing that this was what I had been missing in my life so badly, without even noticing how deeply I needed the element of water surrounding me, and the feeling of living life to the fullest when on a boat. A little voice inside said to me that I should find a skipper with a boat and run away to sail around the world to full fill this need of being surrounded by water, on a boat.
But a louder voice inside me was agreeing with the other bloggers on the trip – how truly blessed we are that we have been able to create this lifestyle surpassing our wildest dreams. Because I know if I WAS on a boat sailing the seven seas, I would be craving the many adventures I have in my life now. One that one moment, I had both:
I had my moment of bliss on a boat and my amazing life including the wildest adventures and events that I could have never even dreamed of when I was just a little girl and spending my summer days sitting on the back of the boat and watching the waves and dreaming of sailing the world one day visiting the exciting harbors of it. Go figure, I had to marry a pilot to realize that it’s actually faster to see more harbors and exciting places in the world when you fly.
Sometimes life has it’s weird way of giving you exactly what you wanted even when you didn’t really even know what you were after. Now when you ask yourself “how did I get here” think of the choices you have made by following your heart and where they have gotten you. Have you found unexpected new “harbors” in life that you never even imagined visiting? Is your life the opposite you thought it would turn out – in good or bad? Is your life going to right direction or should you steer the course? life inspiration, LIFESTYLE, living life to the fullest
Robin | Farewell, Stranger
I’m a total fatalist and I think it’s so true that we end up where we’re supposed to be, even if we didn’t see it coming. That’s certainly true for me. I had a 7-year-plan and something major that happened this spring knocked that off the table – by my choice. I decided something else was more important, and that I’m supposed to do something else with my life. Of course now I have to figure out how to do that…
I spent a lot of time in “how did I get here” – and really not in a good way – before realizing it just is what it is and I should be working with it.
PS I love boats too :)
We truly are lucky my friend. I always said that if TODAY was my last day on earth that I would have been satisfied with the experiences that I had, the people whom I’ve met and the focus that my life has taken. There would be no – I should have, I could have or if I had the time I would have.
I think we are all have the life we have because of choices (even though many folk don’t realise that or sometimes don’t want to accept that). Some choose to live by accident because they know no other way. Personally I choose to live by design. I did the whole living by accident thing for many years and finally realised it was a sure fire way to a life of mediocrity.
I think the first step is to create our own definition of success based on our core values and what is most important to us. Then we can go about creating that and living life on our own terms. As teh saying goes – life isn’t a dress rehearsal!!!!!
Courtney @ the Mommy Matters
I think it’s only human nature to sit back sometimes and wonder if we made the right choices and if there is something better out there. 9 times out of 10, however, we realize that what we have RIGHT now, is everything we really wanted.